Most rich guys let their money speak rather than try hard to impress a
woman with their charm. After a couple of months, this becomes mundane
and boring."
In India, our firm belief systems, whatever they may be, are reinforced by our families. And India is largely still a land of big families. Religious guys or the domesticated sort are favorites with Indian girls (the next tip elaborates a bit on this). If you’re one of these guys, you’re seen as rooted, God-fearing and someone who can shift into several demanding gears that may require you to juggle kids, her parents and then the household help (yes, household help is the norm rather than the exception throughout India) -- all the while negotiating a business deal over the phone.
The fact is, most guys harbor a fundamental misconception about what women really want. We believe that the guy with more money gets more girls. I say rubbish. Most rich guys let their money speak rather than try hard to impress a woman with their charm. After a couple of months, this becomes mundane and boring. Given the choice, most women would prefer a guy who can speak his mind to a guy who’s always willing to open his wallet. Look at all the artists, musicians, writers (*awkward cough*) sporting girls on their arms.
My third piece of advice is to master the art of perseverance. Most of us give up or retreat, in fear, at an early stage. Women, especially in India, play hard to get, even if they’re not a 10 or a 7.5. The other half fall under the conservative-conventional shell of the Indian society (the “I don’t speak with strangers or go out” types).
But I believe that generally men are mostly to blame for this radical hard-to-get playing. Too many men going on the “she smiled so I asked her to come home with me” plan have convinced too many women that all we want is to get in their pants.
To cut a long story short, rejection is on the menu no matter how much of a player you are. You must learn to take it slowly and -- dare I say this but it bloody well works out there -- take the “friendship” route if all else fails. At the very least it opens up a door to get to know her better. But be careful in how you tread on this double-edged path of friendship-attraction. Try only circling the rim of the well without actually falling in, if you know what I mean.
One tried and tested model of perseverance that seems to work like a charm 99% of the time is flipping the ecosystem. It’s been mastered/perpetuated and thrown around year after year by Bollywood. Allow me to explain and break this mystical and magical model in a few easy steps.
Let’s say you know a girl from school who also happens to live next door (sort of like an American Pie situation). Now, pay attention closely because it gets a bit tricky here. Get her parents, her friends, her dog and her relatives to fall in love with you. This will make the soil fertile and the ecosystem ripe for you to step in and make the move. In other words, all the “influencers” in her life will vouch for you. Play your cards right, and she’ll be the one making the first move.
Here’s a quick recap. Remember to drop the plan and be spontaneous (the “do” first and “make sense later” approach), be the versatile social monkey able to handle all flocks of society in one merry-go-round (without flinching), master the art of perseverance and, if all else seems to be failing, flip her ecosystem in your favor. No one ever said it was easy, but neither did anyone say it was impossible.
In India, our firm belief systems, whatever they may be, are reinforced by our families. And India is largely still a land of big families. Religious guys or the domesticated sort are favorites with Indian girls (the next tip elaborates a bit on this). If you’re one of these guys, you’re seen as rooted, God-fearing and someone who can shift into several demanding gears that may require you to juggle kids, her parents and then the household help (yes, household help is the norm rather than the exception throughout India) -- all the while negotiating a business deal over the phone.
The fact is, most guys harbor a fundamental misconception about what women really want. We believe that the guy with more money gets more girls. I say rubbish. Most rich guys let their money speak rather than try hard to impress a woman with their charm. After a couple of months, this becomes mundane and boring. Given the choice, most women would prefer a guy who can speak his mind to a guy who’s always willing to open his wallet. Look at all the artists, musicians, writers (*awkward cough*) sporting girls on their arms.
My third piece of advice is to master the art of perseverance. Most of us give up or retreat, in fear, at an early stage. Women, especially in India, play hard to get, even if they’re not a 10 or a 7.5. The other half fall under the conservative-conventional shell of the Indian society (the “I don’t speak with strangers or go out” types).
But I believe that generally men are mostly to blame for this radical hard-to-get playing. Too many men going on the “she smiled so I asked her to come home with me” plan have convinced too many women that all we want is to get in their pants.
To cut a long story short, rejection is on the menu no matter how much of a player you are. You must learn to take it slowly and -- dare I say this but it bloody well works out there -- take the “friendship” route if all else fails. At the very least it opens up a door to get to know her better. But be careful in how you tread on this double-edged path of friendship-attraction. Try only circling the rim of the well without actually falling in, if you know what I mean.
One tried and tested model of perseverance that seems to work like a charm 99% of the time is flipping the ecosystem. It’s been mastered/perpetuated and thrown around year after year by Bollywood. Allow me to explain and break this mystical and magical model in a few easy steps.
Let’s say you know a girl from school who also happens to live next door (sort of like an American Pie situation). Now, pay attention closely because it gets a bit tricky here. Get her parents, her friends, her dog and her relatives to fall in love with you. This will make the soil fertile and the ecosystem ripe for you to step in and make the move. In other words, all the “influencers” in her life will vouch for you. Play your cards right, and she’ll be the one making the first move.
Here’s a quick recap. Remember to drop the plan and be spontaneous (the “do” first and “make sense later” approach), be the versatile social monkey able to handle all flocks of society in one merry-go-round (without flinching), master the art of perseverance and, if all else seems to be failing, flip her ecosystem in your favor. No one ever said it was easy, but neither did anyone say it was impossible.
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