No one is out of your league if you know how to woo them.
You Will Need
- Bravery
- An opening line—and opening question
- A few good travel stories
- And some quirky questions
Step 1: Dress nicely
Dress nicely, but don’t overdo it. Being overdressed or too sexy makes you seem desperate, which is always a turn-off.
Step 2: Smile
Smile at the person who’s caught
your eye—but do it the right way. For women, that means smiling while
eyeing his body appreciatively. For men, it means holding her gaze.
Step 3: Approach with a good opening
Approach the person and say “hi.”
Then deliver an opening line that includes both a “we” statement and a
personal question that involves the person’s feelings, such as, “If the
band is as good as I’ve heard, we’re in for a great night. Are you into
rockabilly?”
TIP-Note to men: stay away
from sexual innuendo—a big turnoff to women—and go with gallantry, like
rescuing a woman from the guy who’s serving up the smut.
Step 4: Learn names
Memorize the person’s name and use it. People find it flattering, and transfer those good feelings to you.
TIP-Note to women: tell him he
has beautiful eyes. One survey found this is more successful in scoring
a guy’s interest than offering to buy him a beer.
Step 5: Ask quirky questions
Ask quirky questions. A study of
speed daters found that the woman picked for a date by every man was not
the prettiest; she was the one who asked, “What’s your favorite pizza
topping?”
TIP-People who share an
exhilarating and/or scary experience—like, say, a mechanical bull at a
bar—bond quickly, because they confuse their feelings of excitement with
attraction to their partner.
Step 6: Talk about agreeable things
Steer the conversation to
agreeable topics. Yelling about nuclear disarmament or which God is the
real God is best left for after the third date.
Step 7: Offer to buy dinner
Seal the deal by asking the person
to dinner. Not drinks, which makes you seem uncommitted. Not coffee,
which makes you seem cheap. Actual dinner.
No comments:
Post a Comment